WTF Happen at Second Pride Part 2

 This is an update to the one I did in 2018 when the fallout and down began.  Most people are not as taken in by the actions of one individual who is good at kissing ass and we all know who that is.  I am currently working on a lengthy post about what should happen because it seems Second Life aka Linden Labs does not care, forcing people to make higher donations for a region than required as all donations less expenses are profit.

I was Chair from 2014 to 2015 and yet I got booted from the group by Totsie Nootan no doubt she was told to by Lee McKay because it would make him look worse than he already is.  I was expecting it but not by Tootsie.  So much for community organization when a former chair gets booted for standing their ground.

Maybe it is time for a new Pride organization to take root and shit down Second Pride watch this space for more.

FACT OR FICTION / TRUTH OR LIE (THIS BLOG POST FROM 2021 BEAR REPEATING)

FACT: A thing that is known or proved to be true.

FICTION: Literature in the form of prose, especially short stories and novels, that describes imaginary events and or people.who are real to create a rumour.

TRUTH: Facts are understood as simply those propositions which are true. There are true propositions and false ones, and facts just are true propositions.  The truth is what is true. It may be everything that is true (reality) or just a part of it (a fact). It may also be a statement that is true: a truth. Things or statements that are not trueare untrue or false. True things exist (or have existed); false things do not (or never have).

LIE: A lie is an assertion that is believed to be false, typically used with the purpose of deceiving someone. The practice of communicating lies is called lying. A person who communicates a lie may be termed a liar

RUMOURS: Used to refer to the process by which rumours and gossip are originated and circulated among a group of people. Can currently be a circulating false story or report of uncertain or doubtful truth about a group to individual.  Can also be called, gossip, hearsay, fiction, lie.

Here we go again? seems the rumour mill is making up stories, or making negative comments without going straight to the horses mouth. As the saying goes “Always remember… Rumors are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots.” —Ziad K.

The quote above is so true so I am saying do not believe everything you hear from someone you know about another without verifying the truth or asking for written or picture proof.  Then again remember those who share a chat log is in violation of terms of service in Second Life(SL), and can be subject with proof with a ban from Linden Labs(LL).

Gossip in SL thrives and manifest itself all for the wrong reasons just to either as a form of revenge, to ruin a person reputation.  It is a cancer that people get pleasure from a person  who seeks personal pleasure from destroying another.  They have no care about about who is on the other side of the screen, they just want something and the only way to get it is destroy any individual in their way.

Those who believe the gossip and perpetuate the gossip by telling others are blind and ignorant making a fool of themselves.  More so when they believe a lie to be true.

In RL they named a club "Rumours" because there was so many before they moved and changed building.  They even use the song by Marvin Gaye of Motown "I heard it through the grape vine" this ended up becoming a theme song for it.

I have been the brunt of these stories, gossip and rumours, and only one person has come to me and asked "What the fuck is going on?" I got the gist of the rumour however he had got it from another individual, of course it changes from person to person and by the time one hears it it can be a whole different story.

I am not here in SL to be a figure of fun I like being a DJ I never admitted to being a professional but I have been doing it for almost 9 years out of the 11 I have been in SL.  I do not profess to be #1 no one  I know is but there are a few who are who are good at it and what they do such as DJ Nexus.

If you hear a story about me come to me and get the facts, the truth.  Others have not and made a decision about me based on a lie when they realize it to be a lie, they say sorry but it is too late the damage has been done. Or about someone else do not repeat it and go to the horses mouth. Or paste it on virtual secrets. Ask and the truth shall set you free.

Stop the lies, untruth and rumours and lets make SL a better

 place. 

Footnote 06.30.21 There are other good DJ who can know how to keep the people entertained and listen.  DJ like Nexus and myself (I am not the best but people listen I watch the stats), Ralph, have a high listener rate.  So do others.  The crowd is not everything it how many are listening.  I said once before when you have 72 on a sim and 17 listening what does say about the dj?

Zodiac Pride Jeans Creator "Ethan Tillman".  

Ethan has created designs for a new clothing line that can catch one eye and get you excited.  

Taking away from the bulging crotch which is a change from most.  For most designers, we have in Second Life (SL) these days.  I like his Pride Jeans ($299L / $255L) because SL is more than a bulging crotch.  Ethan's jeans have a fantastic Pride belt around a slim waist and the back pocket sporting the new one of the many recent Pride Flags. 

He has shown the a$$et$ well, loose-fitting, perfectly design clothes.  This designer and this SLbrand line is one to be watched with his new line I am sure we will see more from Zodiac. 

Because this is only the beginning of more fantastic designs to come from this brand line.  I know more is to be released and will be better.  

The also has a tuck Pride Flag style t-shirt ($199L / $170L) that works well with the jeans.  When you wear them both they do go together.  The two items at the same time will draw many a looker towards you.  Both give one a sense of style and class.  So if you been lacking the attention you crave wear these two items both available in the main store and the satellite store at Second Pride.  

Remember to join the group and get a discount price for the items always try the demos and make sure it is what you want.  Both Items also do not have an auto alpha so have your hud handy.

As always try the demos and make sure it is what you want and it works with your avi.  Both Items also do not have an auto alpha so have your hud handy.

I have another item from Ethan that I will discuss in the future go ahead and check his stores out:

Second Pride: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Second%20Pride%20East/45/230/38

MAIN STORE:

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Second%20Pride%20East/45/230/38

Check this one out you will not be disappointed! 

COMMUNITY

In SL what does this mean to you opinion are welcomed!

The classic definition of the term community is fairly straightforward, “a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common” or “the condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common.” Simple but somehow rather vague.

Community organization

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Community organization refers to organizing aimed at making desired improvements to a community's social health, well-being, and overall functioning. Community organization occurs in geographically, psychosocially, culturally, spiritually, and/or digitally bounded communities.

Community organization includes community work, community projects, community development, community empowerment, community building, and community mobilization. It is a commonly used model for organizing community within community projects, neighborhoods, organizations, voluntary associations, localities, and social networks, which may operate as ways to mobilize around geography, shared space, shared experience, interest, need, and/or concern.

Community organization is a process by which a community identifies needs or objectives, takes action, and through this process, develops cooperative and collaborative attitudes and practices within a community. (Murray G. Ross, 1967).

Community organization is differentiated from conflict-oriented community organizing which focuses on short-term change through appeals to authority (i.e., pressuring established power structures for desired change), by focusing on long-term and short-term change through direct action and the organizing of community (i.e., the creation of alternative systems outside of established power structures). This often includes inclusive networking, interpersonal organizing, listening, reflexivity, non-violent communication, cooperation, mutual aid and social care, prefiguration, popular education, and direct democracy.

Within organizations, variations exist in terms of size and structure. Some are formally incorporated, with codified bylaws and Boards of Directors (also known as a committee), while others are much smaller, more informal, and grassroots.

Community organization may be more effective in addressing need as well as in achieving short-term and long-term goals than larger, more bureaucratic organizations. Contemporary community organization, known as "The New Community Organizing",^[1] includes glocalized perspectives and organizing methods.^[2] The multiplicity of institutions, groups, and activities do not necessarily define community organization. However, factors such as the interaction, integration, and coordination of, existing groups, assets, activities, as well as the relationships, the evolution of new structures and communities, are characteristics unique to community organization.

Community organization may often lead to greater understanding of community contexts. It is characterized by community building, community planning, direct action and mobilization, the promotion of community change, and, ultimately, changes within larger social systems and power structures along with localized ones.^[3]

Community organization generally functions within not-for-profit efforts, and funding often goes directly toward supporting organizing activities. Under globalization, the ubiquity of ICTs, neoliberalism, and austerity, has caused many organizations to face complex challenges such as mission drift and coercion by state and private funders.^[4] These political and economic conditions have led some to seek alternative funding sources such as fee-for-service, crowd funding, and other creative avenues.

WTF HAPPENED AT Second Pride

This view as I see it is only my opinion and not the view of any other individual or person name in this blog.  I have been reading about this over the past week and many have given me their opinion, however, this is my view.  I ask you to read this one with an open mind.

I have a few friends who currently sit on the board of Second Pride (SP) this post is not about them it is about the way the situation was handled and how it could have actually been done differently.

I was Chair of Second Pride for the year 2014 - 2015.  It was a hard and difficult year but I made it through because I had real life issues to deal with.  I was a found member and Chair of the "Canadian Positive People Network" which has received after long days and night fund from the Canadian government to sustain its operations over the next 5 years.

I currently sit on another national board called "Realize" in Canada as their Treasurer.  I lived with HIV for 34 years so I come through the pandemic with a different look on how to live and how to handle the situations such as what happened.

I have read many copies of the local chat all said the same things so nothing was hidden from me.

Meeting decorum and procedure:  When a person at SP click the stick at the meeting and their name comes up they have the floor and deserve to speak without interruption or interference by anyone on the floor or the board.  However, when someone has an issue with the discussion they should rise on a "procedural point of order or personal point of order" and until recognized by the Chair they need to be silent and the person who has the floor should be able to speak until the Chair has recognized the issue on the floor.

Where this issue was getting heated discussion as Chair I would have asked for a motion to adjourn the meeting for the board to go in camera and resolve the issue.  It should not have gotten as far as it did with the removal of the board member in question.

This has put SP in a different light not just from allowing the discussion to fester and get as far as it did and the end action of removing a person who had won the election 60 - 9.  I knew both candidates Jimmy and Kaden (the vote I made was a hard choice to make) they are friends of mine also three board members Lee, Bock, Mike, Nicky.  I harbor no ill feeling to any of those involved as a person who has dealt with the experience of an RL National non-profit from the ground up I had to say something.  I love all of those whom that have I have mentioned.

The other procedural error is that the chair should not have been part of the discussion, move or second a motion unless he had asked another board member to chair the meeting until the issue was done.  I dealt with Robert Rules of Order used as a procedural guide for many organizations all over the world.  As I said earlier this should have gone in camera with the elected board until it could have been put to rest.

I have been told by other they are upset not just because of the removal of Jimmy after being elected by such a large amount of vote by its membership.  Secondly how the procedure or meeting was allowed to get out of hand as it did.  I am saddened by how this could affect Second Pride and its future in SL.

This was my two cents.

Ezzie

Irish Words of Advice:  "Never approach a bull from the front, a horse from the rear, an a idiot from any direction!"

In Memory of Naked Carl

I had to sit and cry for a bit last night when NakedCarl Panner RL Daughter contacted me to inform me he had passed away in RL.

He was good to me and everyone in the Gay Community of Second Life always at Second Pride taking and blogging each day's events and had plan to attend this past year but just could not due to health.

I will miss his "grins" and being at my set and those of many others DJ in Second Life,  I am not sure how long his Blog will remain up but take a look while you can at nakedcarl.com

We are raising funds in Second Life for the charity of choice of Naked Carl as per his RL family and a service will be held at a future date however you can pay respects to him in second life.

His loss is a loss to the gay community in Second Life Carl's RL family have informed me the Charity of Choice you can donate to is "Southern Ohio Medical Center" (SOMC Hospice) we will be excepting donation to the charity in lindens at the site. At this time you memorial hall we have set up to pay your respects  http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/White%20Deer%20Isle/61/177/3802

His obituary is located at if you wish to show your respects to his family.  Carl-Gee

Rest in peace Carl we will see you on the otherside of the rainbow.

Friends or not

The definition of friend is:

a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.

synonyms:

companion, soul mate, intimate, confidante, confidant, familiar, alter ego, second self, playmate, playfellow, classmate, schoolmate, workmate;  ally, associate;  sister, brother;  best friend, kindred spirit, bosom buddy, bosom friend;  informalpal, chum, sidekick, crony, main man, mate, buddy, bud, amigo, compadre, homeboy, homegirl, homie, dawg, gal pal, BF, BFF;  informalpeeps;  archaiccompeer "a close friend"

Sometimes lately I wonder sometimes who really is or if they friends.  With friends you never forget to thank people.  You have the courtesy to ask do you mind, but do you.

World AIDS Day The Good and The Bad and Ugly

December 1st is "World AIDS Day" it is a day I stop and think of who of my friends are gone because of it.  I have attended public vigils in the past and look around the room and counted the number of people there and realized there are not enough hands in this room that can be used to count the number of people I know or whom I have cross paths with that have died of AIDS.

I attended a vigil once in Toronto behind the 519 Community Center Cawthra Park during Gay Pride Week, they continue the practice of preventing TV Cameras from attending the event to record what was happening during the event which I am glad as people could let their emotions out and truly cry.  In attendance, there were parents, brothers, sisters, friends, those who work in the field.  There was not a dry eye in the house, everyone holding a candle in memory as the names were read out loud of those who had past and been added to the wall in the garden surrounding the center.  Every time I am there I try to make a trip to the wall which runs through the park to pay respect to those I know who have moved on, who have fought the good fight given it all, even volunteering like me until their last breath.  They are all listed by years and as each year is posted you see the list is getting shorter and shorter as people like me are living longer after 1996 International AIDS Conference in Vancouver which I got to attend breakthroughs started to be made and people started to live longer strive for better life and do the right thing hence the theme that year "One World One Hope".

I can remember the day, date and location and who I was with the person who gave me the virus.  He has left this earth but I am still here I am a fighter after what will be 34 years on December 10th with this virus it is starting to wear me down a bit.  But I continue to fight and strive for what I think is right and do the right thing as I see it.  My former partner is a rock and strength although he still drives me up the wall also my BFF in Second Life.  You all keep me going strong and alive, you make me want to do more for those who live with it and newly diagnosed in RL and tactics for prevention of stopping people from getting this virus.  I still want to understand why the largest segment of the population in RL getting this are those 18 - 24 both those who are gay and straight, I love to find the answer to this and why they do not head to the message.

The new thing is Bug Chasers looking for Gift Givers.  Yes there are people out there looking to catch this another question I love to have an answer to.  They think they will have benefits get more money and let me tell you you will get less.  I encourage friends who are not to go on PrEP. PrEP means Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis, and it’s the use of anti-HIV medications to keep HIV negative people from becoming infected.  There is also a medication in this group of drugs that I take and has put me into the spot where I am Un-ifectious and the virus is Un-detecable (U=U).  Meaning I cannot spread the virus to anyone through sexual contact.  There are people out there who refuse to get tested and end up infecting others unknowing because they do not know, if you are active get tested both men and women not just for HIV but HPV men pass on to women HPV.  I just want to see everyone do the right thing in the right way for the right reason and not try to fool anyone or rip them off of financial resources.

Discrimination is great in RL and SL mostly based on fear and stigma of those living with HIV like myself, some people have stop talking to me in SL because I have HIV or will have pixel sex because I have HIV in RL.  It is that fear and stigma that make things worse for people like me because we won't give in to your point of view.  Some are upset the laws have changed in some states and countries regarding HIV as it is not a terminal illness so it is no longer considered manslaughter.  

On December 1st "World Aids Day" I will donate all the tips I earn to a charity as I do every year.  This year the amount of money I turn over will include T-Shirts that are available made for me by Dany Vale of Red Angel Designs.  My Charity this year is the "AIDS Memorial Quilt" in Canada and the U.S.A..

Two samples are to the left Top one is from the Canadian Quilt quilt made up of 8 panels. The NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt, often abbreviated to AIDS Memorial Quilt, is an enormous quilt made as a memorial to celebrate the lives of people who have died of AIDS-related causes both doses separately in Canada and the U.S.A.

The quilt has grown in size it is estimated that in the U.S.A. it weighs 54 tons and is stored in Atlanta in Canada it is stored in Ottawa.  It cost money to keep the storage facility running and          keep them in pristine condition for future viewing.

If your not going to be around December 1st and you want to support this effort you can do so in advance.  There are donation Jars and T-Shirt Vendors location around the grid at:  K.O.X.X. MALL  , Gay Fun World, Treason and at Red Angel Designs at this time (Landmarks Below).  I will be report every few days of an increase on a donation on my facebook page which has in a few short days reached $924L.  The T-Shirts are also for sale on Marketplace https://marketplace.secondlife.com/stores/91041

I am planning numerous sets that day around the grid which will include K.O.X.X. MALL (Special Venue), Gay Mens Cove, Gay Fun Beach and there is a fourth venue yet to be named yes 4 sets of two hours each to raise more than just lindens.  My objective as a long term survivor is to raise awareness and support for those living with HIV/AIDS in SL and RL.  We need to hear it from others whom we are close to, we need to know you accept us for who we are and what we live with without worry or concern that you are avoiding us because of it.

I ask each of you to come out on December 1st and help me raised the needed resources for charity by timing me and whom I am working with for a just cause and just reason.  I will start the "Around The Grid Tour"  November 30th please come and support with your dancing talents and donations.  I want to thank also Markarius Viper, Evan Greymyst, Rayden, Fusion, Reyn, Andre and my SL Family for their ongoing support.


LINKS below where you can buy T-Shirt $149L each or both for $260L there is also a female version of the shirt.  You can also donate at the same locations watch for the poster of the parties.

K.O.X.X. MALL

Gay Fun World - Gaylaria

Treason - Gay Slave and Human Trafficking

RedAngel Designs - By Danny Vale

Depression

Many people in SL deal with Depression in RL each and every day of their life from the time they wake up till when they go to bed.  You just can't shake it no matter what once there for most people it is there for the rest of your life.

I am one of them, I put on a brave face, love to laugh, have many good friends including my BFF Markarius and my clan family.  Some people do not like me because I stand my ground on things they disagree with the action or the way I go about getting it done but when you can raise $165 RL Cash in four hours with the help of those close to me, I have proved them wrong.

My thrill in life is to do charity work and raise money for those who are even less fortunate than me, and I am literally poor.  I live on $616 CDN a month which works out to $437 USD.  I have lived with HIV for 33 years soon 34 never been sick because of the virus, but can easily get the flu.

My HIV status is "Undetectable" which means I cannot spread it through sexual contact, but the stigmatization and fear of other in RL and SL keep them away from me.  Damm your not going to get a thing from me more so in SL.  My RL family except for my brother knows of my health and when I get to hug and cuddle my great nephew cause I love this autistic boy I feel good.  Laws are being decriminalized because of this not just in California but all over North America and even the UK is looking at this but the Center For Disease Control in the USA has admitted this is true "  cdc-officially-admits-people-positive-undetectable-cannot-transmit-hiv
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So remember the words you can say to someone in SL hurt there is a real person on the other side of the screen that is real that has feelings and is doing what they can to survive in SL like me.  Anything you do or say could affect them and what they are dealing with in the worst way.  Some dont care I know that and they never will they see this as a gay s chance to do a "Mental Mind Fuck (MMF)" on someone because they see this as just a game but it is more than a game, real lives and real people are involved.  I am sure they would be upset if someone turn around on them and maybe then they can realize how things are.  SL is my escape from RL and I love to DJ,

I am not here to create a "MMF" I am not here to take bull from others who try to prove to other they are right and make me look bad, call me names and try to do everything they can to make me look bad when in the end they have done something that makes them look bad and puts them in a place where they cannot be trusted.

I love my family in SL and Friends and some of them do not get along but I keep that separate I understand why however it does not change the way I feel about them.  There are those whom are on the fence as they have not done anything wrong but have gotten me to see who they are and it is them I keep a close eye on, because I am not sure what they think.

Moving on, I hope

The last few months have brought me some grief with the RL passing of two people near and dear to me DanR and Nibz.  These two were a good couple for each other in Second Life and made many friends and a couple children Nemo and Fabian.

Nibz was separated from his RL Family and they were not involved with anything so the obit was short and sweet walter-bunyan-obituary.  I have had bearly my own time to grieve and consider this matter given that I been trying to fulfill Nibz wishes him and I spoke about after Dan's service with the request that I not leave him alone.

Nibz has been a part of my life in SL from about the time he was 8 months in and he came to me looking for a job at my bar.  I will be forever gratefull for what he has done for me, with me and used my advice and opinion in a way that things came out better for him.

He went peacefully in his sleep and now him and Dan are on the other side of the rainbow having fun.

As I said on Facebook: "This situation saddens us all after the recent passing of his SL husband in RL Ðαɳ Ʀαγmαkȼɾ-ℳiɾαbȼllα (danr.raymaker). We are all bothered by this and we are dealing with it as best we can.

A service of remembrance will be held Sunday September 10th (Grandparents Day) 2PM at the same location of Dan's service and a fund raiser party will follow to send a donation to S.P.C.A. to honor Nibz and Dan's love for their pets. To date including funds from Dan's event the funds total $35,355L we like to raise a bit more.

Service Time: 2PM (Doors Open at 1PM)
Location: Viper Gulch, Wanda 

You can pick up more information on the service at the memorial location in SL at  

http://maps.secondlife.com/…/Forbidden%20Pleasur…/30/93/3502

Look for the picture posted here to get the info: